Welcome to my Mister Tips; I hope that they prove useful and insightful and will perhaps give you a few giggles if nothing else! These little secrets I have picked up through my experiences with men. For my first post I would like to offer my one basic rule about their strange and wonderful kind. This is my fundamental rule of thumb that applies to every man, of every age, of every nationality in all of time.
Are you ready?
Here it is:
Men are frightened of women.
Oh, you are disappointed. You already knew that one. Have heard it many times in fact. Well, let me elaborate.
Have you ever noticed that men tend only to approach women when equipped with beer in hand? And that when they do some slurred sort of sentence emanates from their mouth which sounds so nonchalantly rehearsed that you are struck more by the obscurity of it? Yes, I'm sure this sounds familiar. You know how it goes. You are with some friends, perhaps in a bar, and some guy starts trying to catch your eye or stand much too close to you. Heaving a sigh, you side step away, having spotted this time bomb a mile off. Meanwhile he is mustering all his strength to say something to you. Some words. Any words. His eyebrows are furrowed with intense concentration as he sums out something to say to you. You can almost see the strange words forming in his mind. Then, just as you move from your friends to the bar he pounces, "Shhwhhaaaatsssss yourrrr driink?"
Confused?
This poor man is experiencing what many others do when faced with unknown women: fear. Fear can explain all bad chat up lines and strange experiences with the opposite sex. One guy I knew slammed his fingers in the bathroom door during a date with a highly attractive female. Too scared to say anything he spent the entire evening casually dipping his fingers into his wine glass as if it was the most normal practice in the world. Needless to say she did not accept his invitation for a second date.
Another more endearing example I have involves one of my friends who is an artist and shares a studio with a number of other artists in between handling other projects. One evening she was working late as was another artist who she had only briefly met before. As the evening wore on they got chatting and my friend invited him to the cinema with a group she was going with that evening. Soon, he had confessed that he had liked her for over three months but had been too shy to say anything yet had visited the studio on numerous occasions merely in the hope of catching her. Isn't that sweet.
Of course there is the rare species of male that will approach any woman without an ounce of nerves or fear but in my experience these brazen boys are only searching for a night of no strings attached passion.
So what is the solution? If a man that you rather like and admire is displaying any of the signs above then do put him out of his misery and offer him a friendly smile. Just a little kindness can break the ice, soothe his nerves and in turn save you from some very awful chat up lines. You never know just where it might lead.........................
